Archive for the ‘Reflection’ Category

Part One: How To Stop Worrying And Start Living

Fear and worry often limit us in our ability to make decisions and live long, healthy and happy lives.  Nobel prize winner, Dr. Alexis Carrel, once said, “Businessmen who do not know how to fight worry die young.”  I think it may be safe to say that this doesn’t just go for businessmen but for every man and woman alive.

Worry is rooted in fear.  And fear is a terrible emotion to be making decisions based off.  Not to mention all the negative health effects worry and fear can bestow upon you.  So how do you deal with this?

Glad you asked.  This is a great piece of advice from William H. Carrier, the engineer who launched the air conditioning industry and headed the Carrier Corporation, explaining the steps he took to deal with, and overcome, his own worries.  These are the steps:

Step 1: Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve my problem?”

Step 2: Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst – if necessary.

Step 3: Calmly try to improve upon the worst possible case – which you have already mentally agreed to accept.

Pick one thing that you are worried about.  Anything.  Life.  Love.  Work.  Family.  Kids.  Money.  Success.  And then ask those three questions in the context of that issue.

This may seem a little hokey but it works.  It’s not going to instantly solve everything that you worry about, but if you do this enough times you begin to realize that the things you’re worrying about are not as overwhelming as you’re making them out to be.  You have the capacity to overcome any obstacles.  It really just boils down to asking yourself the right questions and putting yourself in the right frame of mind to let go of undue stress, which frees up a lot of energy to improve your disposition.

So next time you’re worried about something ask yourself these three questions so you can put yourself on track to a long, worry-free life.

Happy Wednesday!

(Chad)

* Hat tip to Dale Carnegie and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

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Will Smith Gets It, Do You?

No words this week.  Just some great thoughts about life from Will Smith.  If you like what you hear, you should also check out the other post with Will Smith – you can find it here.

Happy Wednesday!

(Chad)

You Should Be Doing This, But You’re Probably Not

“Let’s say that when I turned sixteen, a genie had appeared to me.  And that genie said, ‘Warren, I’m going to give you the car of your choice.  It’ll be here tomorrow morning with a big bow tied on it.  Brand-new.  And it’s all yours.’

Having heard all the genie stories, I would say, ‘What’s the catch?’  And the genie would answer, ‘There’s only one catch.  This is the last car you’re ever going to get in your life.  So it has to last a lifetime.’

If that had happened, I would have picked out that car.  But, can you imagine, knowing it had to last a lifetime, what I would do with it?  I would read the manual about five times.  I would always keep it garaged.  If there was the least little dent or scratch, I’d have it fixed right away because I wouldn’t want it rusting.  I would baby that car, because it would have to last a lifetime.

That’s exactly the position you are in concerning your mind and body.  You only get one mind and one body.  And it’s got to last a lifetime.  Now, it’s very easy to let them ride for many years.  But if you don’t take care of that mind and that body, they’ll be a wreck forty years later, just like the car would be.

It’s what you do right now, today, that determines how your mind and body will operate ten, twenty, and thirty years from now.”

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These investments are the most important ones you will ever make, so choose them wisely!  If you don’t know where to begin, start simple, invest in one of these BOOKS and do something active that allows your body to do what it was designed to do, move!

Happy Wednesday!

(Chad)

* Hat tip to The Snowball: Warren Buffett and The Business of Life

The Man Who Chases Two Rabbits Catches None

On the June 18, 2010 edition of The American Entrepreneur radio show, Ron Morris talked with Zappos CEO, Tony Hsieh.  One topic of conversation was poker and the parallels that Tony drew between it and business (and life).  This is the gist of Tony’s comments…

In poker: if you never lose a hand it probably means you’re not playing enough hands.  If you only play the safe hands, then yes, you won’t lose a lot, but you also won’t win a lot.

In business (and life): you have to be willing to take risks and make mistakes and learn from those mistakes.

The opposite of these two statements are also true:

In poker: if you play every single hand, you’ll actually, in terms of number of hands, win more than anyone else, but in terms of actual money you make at the end of the night, it’s going to be a lot less and in many cases you’ll end up losing money because you’re playing too many hands.

In business (and life): often times the hardest part is saying no to opportunities, that are still good opportunities, but if you try to do too many things you’re going to end up not doing any of them well.

Ron follows Tony’s comments by mentioning an old Chinese/Russian proverb: the man who chases two rabbits catches none.

What all of this really translates to is how well you manage/spend your time and how focused you are on your goals.  It’s something you’ve all battled with at some point.  What eliminates this problem is a clearly defined vision and a clearly defined focus.  There are a ton of opportunities out there but unless it fits into the life that you want, it’s a waste of your time and energy.  Realize that no matter who you are, you have the same amount of time as everyone else.  That is a resource that is non-renewable.  Can’t get it back.  Won’t get it back.  So you better start doing something meaningful with it.

Take a step back and look at your life from a bird’s-eye view.  Start thinking about your life like a business.  Where do you spend all of your time, energy and resources?  Like a business, you want to get the biggest return on your investment.  Be aware that if you try to do everything, you will likely end up doing everything average.  But also realize that if you don’t do anything, nothing will ever improve and you’ll probably not create any new opportunities in your life.

At some point in your life you will hear someone say that someone got “lucky” or they were at the “right place at the right time” but honestly that’s all a bunch of bullshit coming from someone who probably doesn’t do anything but sleep, go to work and watch television.  Instead, if you focus on doing things right and by maximizing your time, energy and resources you put yourself in the position to be “lucky” or to be at the “right place at the right time”.  Then you’ll realize that it has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with YOU and how good YOU are at choosing what rabbits to chase.

As a side note, Ron and Tony’s talk centered around Tony’s book Delivering Happiness – which I highly recommend you click on that link, buy it right now and then read it in the next week because it is a phenomenal story that everyone should hear.

Happy Wednesday!

(Chad)

What Are People Learning From You?

“Every man I meet is my superior in some way.  In that, I learn of him.”

That should probably be one of the Ten Commandments.  It’s true, everybody is good at something… some people are good at business, some people are good listeners, some people are good at seizing opportunities and some people are good at sitting on the couch wasting their life in front of a television.  The key is to recognize that you can learn from every one of these people.  First step is to change your mindset.  Don’t just think, “that person is a great listener”, instead think, “why is that person such a great listener?”  When you know the “why” it opens up the doors to possessing those qualities too.  If it’s a quality you want to have, aspire to learn more about how they got so good and then do more of it.  If it’s a quality you don’t want, you still have to recognize how they got so good at it, the only difference is instead of doing more of it, you have to do much, much less of it!

Recognize that if you want to be the best version of yourself, which I can envision no reason why you wouldn’t want to be, then you must constantly learn.  You can learn from everything in your life, it just depends on how you view your world.   See what people do well and see what people don’t do so well.   Why are they so good?  Why do they suck?  That knowledge, in and of itself, is probably worth more than the money you spent on your college degree.   And it’s FREE!  Everyone can do it!  You just have to change your perception of the world around you.   Ohh, and you have to ask lots of “why’s”!

So for every person you interact with today you have to ask yourself the question, “what can I learn from them?”

Happy Wednesday!

(Chad)