Are You Mentally Resilient?

In order to be mentally resilient you need to be able to take situations with negative input and produce positive output.  The ability to do this is all based on how you react, respond and recover from these situations.  At the foundation of these three R’s is your attitude.  Without a positive attitude what you do with the three R’s is useless.  Once you get your attitude right then you can move on to building your mental resiliency.

First step: how do you react?

Reacting is about gathering information, processing it and then reacting mentally.  This is where your attitude is important.  If you have a negative attitude then the first reaction is probably going to be “woe is me!”  And let me tell you, no one is going to feel sorry for you, unless they have a negative attitude too.  But that’s not the kind of company you want to be spending your precious time with.  If you, on the other hand, have a positive attitude then you set yourself up to be able to react in a positive way.  Now your thought process is, “I can deal with this.  I can overcome this.  How can I make this better?”  Those are words that move you forward, not keep you in the same place feeling sorry for yourself.

Second step: how do you respond?

Your response will be dictated by how you reacted internally to the situation.  This will be based on many factors including your attitude, mindset and what your past experiences have been.  Responding can be empowering – if you have the right attitude.  It means you have taken the time to mentally react – you thought the situation through and now you are prepared to give a thoughtful and purposeful response.  Again, your attitude is important.  Your attitude that created your reaction directly impacts how you will respond.  If your attitude is bad you may respond with things like, “I’m doing the best I can.  I’m just doing what I was told.  I didn’t have enough time.”, or some other excuse-based response.  Alternatively, if you have the right attitude, you will avoid such defeating excuses and will instead have the character to be in control of your own emotions, think quickly on your feet, and come up with something that is forward moving rather than self-defeating.

Third step: how do you recover?

Recovery is about learning from what you experienced so you can lay the groundwork for the next reaction.  It prepares you and makes you more mentally resilient.  Isn’t that the old adage, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger?  Yes, once you experience something and get past it, it doesn’t seem as daunting the second time around.  You can also think of this as reflection.  Recovery is about reflecting on the situation – what happened and how you handled it.  Recovery is the time during which who you are comes face-to-face with who you want to become.  This is when you have the opportunity to adjust the sails to keep yourself headed in the right direction.  In a direction filled with self-esteem, self-reliance, self-confidence and mental strength and resiliency.

Your reactions lay the groundwork for how you respond, which paves the way for how you can recover to prepare yourself for the next challenge.  These challenges may come in the form of a friend, a sibling, a parent, a child, a coworker or a spouse.  But next time you are challenged, welcome it, because now you have the recipe to overcome it and emerge on the other side with a great life lesson and improved mental resiliency.

Happy Wednesday!


3 comments so far

  1. […] If you don’t know where to begin, start by finding out how to become Mentally Resilient. […]

  2. Jason on

    I think I’m just mental

  3. Christi on

    Awesome WWC!

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